Dealing with homophobia

Homophobia is when:

• someone says something mean or hurtful to, or about, anyone who isn’t straight
• says anything related to being gay that is disrespectful or offensive even if it isn’t directed at anyone
• treats you differently because of your sexuality.

Homophobia is never ok, and you should never have to face any kind of discrimination (discrimination means people treating you differently or negatively because of something about you). If you are upset by the way someone is treating you, you can speak out about it. If it is someone at school then you could tell a teacher, or if someone is being dangerous or threatening towards you then you could tell the police. If it is someone in your personal life who’s the problem, consider whether that is the sort of person you want in your life.

If you have to have this person in your life, it could be worth trying to have an open and honest conversation about their homophobia if you feel like they are the sort of person who is open enough to have that discussion.

It’s important to remember that there’s loads of help if you’re experiencing homophobia. Take a look at the links below for details of who you can contact for more support and information. If things get so tough that you’re thinking about running away, call Runaway Helpline on 116 000. It’s free to call and text us and completely confidential.